It happens all too often. Each time it makes me just cringe. Wondering what I'm yappin' about?? Let me tell you. I just cringe each time someone says to me, "oh isn't she the most loving little girl" or "those kids are such loving kids aren't they" I hear these comments often and each time, they make me just cringe. My response is usually the same. I respond with, "oh sure, when she wants to be loving. Pretty much like every other kid". What else would I, or could I say to those remarks?
Yes, my daughter is a loving little girl, when she wants to be. She is also one stubborn, strong willed and determined little girl. More loving than others, because of Down syndrome? I'd have to say that is a misconception. Although, many people do believe that is in fact true. I can't say for sure that kids with Down syndrome are more loving than the next kid. What I can say, about Carly is, she is not anymore loving than any other kid. However, Carly is very forgiving. Very caring. Shows compassion toward others. I like to refer to those as her qualities. Qualities that so many other kids are lacking.
Here is a story that is sure to knock your socks off. Paul and I had Carly out and about one day. We were shopping. I was in the check out line and Paul had Carly in a cart at the end of my isle. I saw an older lady stop and chat a few minutes with them. I also saw Paul's facial expression change. It went from a smile to a blank look. Paul's a proud dad. He's proud to be Carly's daddy. This really knocked the wind out of him. I just knew something awful was said. The lady headed on her way. Paul and Carly headed for the car. When I got to the car I knew the older lady said something that just didn't set well with Paul. I asked him what was going on and so he told me. The older lady had made a comment about Carly. This lady said, "oh we have one of those in our family too". She was talking about Carly having Down syndrome. Yes. This makes me just cringe. She also said, "aren't they the most loving creatures". That comment really makes me just cringe. Not to mention that it's a great big slap in the face! Seriously, do people actually refer to others as "creatures"? Apparently.
5 days ago