"Grieving the loss of a child is a process, it begins the day your child passes and ends the day the parent joins them."

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Sad day.

Around 5:15 today, I called Paul to see if he was on his way home from work. His crew was working 10hour days this week. To make up for yesterday. They don't get holiday pay. Unless they work on that day. No one likes a 32 hour check. So, they all were in agreement to work 4 10's this week.

When he answered I knew something was wrong. I could hear it in his voice. I asked him what was going on. His response, "we had a guy get killed on the job today". I instantly got chills up and down my spine. I know several of the guys. I was selfishly thankful that it wasn't Paul.

I hung up the phone not knowing who it was or what had happened. I was just sick. I knew Paul was not in very good shape. I knew there was nothing that I could do but wait for Paul to call me back.

Around 5:40 Paul called to tell me that OSHA had just released the crew. He filled me in a bit. It looks like an electrocution. Paul and another guy on the crew tried CPR for 15 minutes until the paramedics arrived. It was too late. This poor guy, who was only 35 years old was gone.

Paul is not in very good shape. He's the foreman of this crew. He feels very responsible. Even though he was not. He keeps telling me that all he wanted was to keep him from dying. But he couldn't do it. He said no matter how hard I tried. I failed. Bad. I've given him a Xanax and he's now laying down.

His boss called and canceled work for most of the week. The job of course is shut down while crime scene investigators and OSHA do their work. Paul told his boss, "I've done this kind of work since I was 16 years old. I never thought I'd be in this position".

Paul could use some prayer right now. So could the family of the guy who lost his life today. His name was Cedric.

I'll post some picture of Carly tomorrow. She did end up having a great day!


Heidi said...

How awful. I can't even imagine experiencing something like that. I will say a prayer for Paul and for Cedric's family.

Sara P said...

so sorry to hear that news, my prayers are with your family and cedrics.

My name is Sarah said...

This is Joyce. So sad. Such a tough situation for all involved. We pray for comfort for the families including yours.

Lacey said...

Oh my gosh, this is the second friend to have a freak work accident that killed a young man. Praying for your hubby, and for the family of this young man.

Shari said...

My heart aches for Paul! Such a sad situation. He isn't a failure. He's a hero for trying! I have tears as I write for him. I am praying for him and the other man's family who lost his life. This brings back memories as my husband's co-worker a few years ago had a car fall off the rack and land on him. My husband was beside himself because he couldn't get him out without saving him.

Debbie @ Three Weddings said...

It is never an easy thing to deal with. My husband had to deal with a death at his company recently. He works in corporate and was responsible with dealing with the press. I know it's different than Paul's situation, but I know how hard it was on him. I'll be praying for Paul, Cedric and your families.

Denise said...

Oh, I am so sorry that your husband is having to go through this. I will definitely add him and Cedric's family to my prayers tonight.

Stephanie said...

How terribly sad, we will all say a prayer for Paul and Cedric.
I'm so very sorry.

The VW's said...

How sad! I can only imagine how difficult this is on your husband, not to mention Cedric's family! I'll be praying!

Michelle said...

I'm sorry to hear about the tragedy that happened at Paul's work - heartbreaking. My prayers are with Cedric's family and everyone on that work site.