"Grieving the loss of a child is a process, it begins the day your child passes and ends the day the parent joins them."
BJKarrer

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Everything's going to be alright.

I found an article that made me smile. It gives me so much hope for the future. It made me realize, that even though there are many people who will not accept Carly for who she is; a child born with Down syndrome. There are so many people who will accept her. People will value her as a person. So what if not everybody does. For each person who looks down on Carly, there will be that many more who will not.

There is a reason that Carly was born with Down syndrome. I don't know that reason. I may never know the reason. But that big guy upstairs knows. God has a plan. Whether it's to teach others the value of a particular person. Make a family more appreciative. Or prove to families that they can in fact, over come various obstacles. I do not believe that having a child born with Down syndrome is a curse. It's a blessing. I've always known that. But stories like the following, click here, are absolute proof!

Sometimes I tend to get off track with my ability to actually see what's important, what matters and what doesn't. Easily done when someone is constantly throwing curve balls at you. But when I read stories like this, I for one believes that eventually, everything is going to be alright.

85 comments:

Becca said...

Yes, I just LOVE this story, and had posted it on FB yesterday, too! Hope is such a perfect name for such an inspirational young lady. I, too, feel hope for my daughter's future after reading this. Glad you posted it!

stephanie said...

awesome story! What a beautiful young lady! Thanks for sharing this one.
It's going to be alright for all of us!

Lacey said...

I needed this post today. I woke up to dumb a@# comment on my blog, and last night, I read a newspaper article on the family thats trying to get baby Sophia in Ukraine. And I couldn't believe the ignorant comments. Like "bring a disabled child back here for our tax dollars to pay for". So I left my own comment, probably not any better because I was pissed. I need to left this stuff go, and only concentrate on the good!

Kristin said...

Thanks for sharing - great story.

Emily said...

Love this! Thanks for sharing!

Tausha said...

Great story. Thanks for sharing and for also sharing your thoughts. It's so true, they are a blessing and everything is going to be alright.

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Lisa said...

I have absolutely nothing I can say. No words that will feel like comfort. Just wanted you to know that my heart hurts for you right now. You will be in my thoughts...

The VW's said...

Praying for you and your family! I am so heartbroken for you! Carly was an inspiration to so many! Love, Hugs and Prayers!!!

My name is Sarah said...

You are all in our hearts and prayers.

Kristin said...

Just heard the tragic news. I am so sorry. My heart is just aching. Praying for your family.

BlessedMom62 said...

My heart is aching as well. I can't wrap my brain around it. She was such an adorable little girl!

Rochelle said...

You are all in our prayers. I am so sorry to hear about Carly.

rylie's mom said...

Praying for your whole family. I'm so sorry.

RK said...

I wish I could say something helpful and wise, but I've got no words. Just know that we are praying for your family, pleading for comfort on your behalf.

Kristen's mom said...

Love you Joany.

sheree said...

More prayers for you and your family. I am so deeply saddened by your loss.

Lacey said...

Love you Joany. Know that this whole Down syndrome community is rallying around you, our arms are around your whole family right now as we too try to wrap our minds around this news.

Beth said...

We're praying for peace and understanding for you in this impossible time.

All our love,
Hannah and Beth

Sweet Pea's Mommy said...

You and your family are in our prayers. You said it well when you said Carly was with the angels because I know that is where she is!

Suzie and Lily said...

Sending prayers up for your family.

Lea said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
Lea

Lisa said...

Oh Joany, I am so shocked and sad. I'm praying for you and your family.

heather said...

I know we never really 'knew' each other but I have been following your blog and twitter for awhile. And I loved reading your blog. I have been so sad today. Morgan is just 6 months younger than Carly and this hits very close to home for me. I just want you to know that you have a big community supporting and praying for you and your family. Our hearts are aching with yours. I am so sorry!

my family said...

Joany,
I know there are no words to take the pain away but know that we all are praying for all of you. I hope that you all feel the Lord's comfort and his loving arms around you at this tragic time.If there is anything at all we can do please let us know...we will all be here for you.

Tausha said...

I just heard the news and I am so sorry for your loss. Carly is a beautiful girl and she definitely earned her angel wings. Your family is in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.

The Lehnick Family said...

My heart aches for you and your family...I will be praying for you! I have loved reading your blog and Little Carly is such an inspiration to us all...Know we are all here for you...

Sharon said...

I really don't know what to say. Thinking of you at this very sad time, I'm so sorry to hear about Carly. I love reading your blog, thank you so much for sharing Carly with us.

Melissa said...

i am praying for you and your family. i have loved reading your blog. Carly is such a beautiful little girl, she will be dearly missed. your family is in our hearts.

Heather said...

Love you Joany and love your beautiful angel girl.

Penny said...

Just adding prayers for your family, Carly was such a bright light in all your lives.

We will keep you all in our prayers

Mommy to those Special Ks said...

I just got my kids to bed... it's almost midnight... and now I'm sitting here reading all the blog posts about Carly... she is so loved. We are praying so hard for all of you. I'm still just so... in disbelief. *sigh* Love you.

JRS said...

Prayers for comfort and healing. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
---Jen

Ruby's Mom said...

Sending my love and prayers.

stephanie said...

Please be able to feel all our love and support. We are heartbroken.
love and prayers to you and your family.

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for you loss,

Jan Stricklin

Kim said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Carly is an inspiration to so many and has touched so many lives. My prayers go out to your family.

The Sanchez Family said...

Biggest hugs. I am so very sorry. I too have no words except you have us standing by your side in grief. We walk with you and we hold you. Carly is an angel now and always.

Jasmine said...

I'm so sorry. Words cannot express what I feel. Praying for you.

Jasmine and Ella.
Windmills and Tulips

Peter Olson said...

I am very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little girl, Carly.
I will pray for your family as you deal with the sadness and pain of her passing.
Carly is in a much better place now, in our heavenly father's presence and loving care.
We'll all get to see her again in heaven. Please take joy in that knowledge.
May God Bless You All through this time of trial, and reward you eternally for your faith.

Cole said...

Our family's hearts, minds and prayers go out to your families in this unbelievably sad time. We are so incredibly stunned and saddened at your loss. Much love and support to you-

Finding Normal said...

I'm praying for you.

Kim K said...

I am heartbroke, I dont even have the words. Carly and your family are a dear part of our carepage family. I will always hold Sweet Carly in my heart.
I have no idea how God can fill this huge hole that losing Carly has caused. I am praying He comforts you somehow.
With love, Kim Knipp, mom to Will, carepage HeWill

Rachel said...

You are in my prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Tiffany said...

Heartbroken for you; praying for you all

Pajama Mama said...

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. There just aren't any words......

Brandie said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you much love and prayers.

Jill said...

I too share the pain of a loss of a child, yet I know that I can not know your grief. My prayers are with your family that you will be filled with Heavenly Father's comfort and love at this excruciating time. Carly was and will continue to be a beautiful part of your family.

Michelle said...

thinking about you today...sending many prayers, thoughts, hugs, and loves. We miss you Carly.

Lacia said...

I just heard about Carly and I'm shocked and deeply saddened for all of you. Many thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

Lianna said...

I am terribly sorry for the loss of Carly. I just wanted you to know that she brings warmth and hope to those that didn't get to know her before now. You are in our prayers.

Adrienne said...

Continued prayers for your family.

Mindy said...

I'm a stranger but Carly's story has even touched my life. Prayers and thoughts to your family, We are thinking of you.

Melissa said...

I'm very sorry for your loss and will continue to pray for your family.

Angi said...

So,so very sorry for your loss.

Jeanne Devine Bolewitz said...

The prayers of our family are with yours. Much peace and strength be with you all. I'm so very sorry for the loss of Carly.

Shannon @ Gabi's World said...

I wish I knew what to say to make it all better, but there isn't such a word. We mourn with you, sweetheart! Just know that we are here if you need an ear. May God be with you and your family as you mourn for your precious Carly.

JennyH said...

I am SO sorry for your loss. I can not even imagine the pain you are in right now. I hope it helps in some way to know that your family is in my prayers and I know LOTS of others as well.

I just can't believe I was reading about YOUR Carly when I was reading updates on FB and blogs.

Jeana said...

We are thinking about and praying for your dear family. Our hearts are broken for you.

Tracy said...

There really are no words. Carly has been a true inspiration to our family. We (the DS community)are all truly here for you.
Hugs and prayers to you at this time.

Tracy said...

"And when he shall die, take him and cut him into little stars and he shall make the face of the sky so beautiful that all the world will be in love with night.." from Little Prince. Carly will shine down on you until you are reunited in Heaven. My family is praying for yours. Sending love...

Sally Carter said...

So very very achingly sorry. Thinking of you and your family. Love and prayers.

homeschool101 said...

Sending prayers to you and your family. So sorry to hear about your this precious little one. Prayers of comfort from the father.

Tommy's mommy said...

Oh how we loved reading about Carly over the years. We mourn with you. Much love and prayers.

Lori said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Offering many prayers of comfort and peace for your family.

Mary said...

My heart aches for your loss...for the world's loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Laura said...

I am so so sorry...my heart is breaking for your family. We will carry your family in prayer.

Kristine said...

I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss. Carly is such a beautiful girl and the world is a little less with her gone.

Chromosomally Enhanced said...

I have no words...but I am thinking of you...you have taught me and my family more then you know...I am so privilege to have been touched by you and your Carly...

Team Carter Jay said...

So very sorry for your loss. We're all praying for you here!

starrlife said...

So sorry.... words can't say how sad I am for you and your family.

Anne and Whitney: Up, Down and All Around said...

I am completely and totally shocked!!! I just saw the news on Sarah's blog (Joyce posted about your TRAGIC loss!) I have no words, I cannot even see what I am typing right now because of the tears in my eyes. I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss, I just do not understand this and am shattered for you all!!! please know that carly and your entire family are in my prayers!!!!!!!!!
~laura

Sasha said...

I am so in shock. I am sending you prayers and hugs at this time. I know words are not enough now as you deal with the loss of your precious daughter. We all love you and are keeping you in our thoughts.

Denise said...

Wow!! Such love given to you by this blogging community. When I checked your blog yesterday, there were only a couple comments and now today, over 70. That is true love for your family. I continue to think about you guys and pray for peace. So many people are.

Tina said...

My days are just consumed with thoughts of Carly, please know how much I loved your little girl...this news has us all broken, totally shattered and still trying to come to grips with it. Also know that we are all here for you, we are all holding you in our arms, I know that still doesn't make the pain any less or easier to deal with. Carly was loved by so many many people and today we pray that somehow, somehow you are able to find the strength to carry on. We love you Joany, please reach out when you are ready.

Meghan said...

I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Brayden'smom said...

Sorry for your loss. Praying for your family.

Denise said...

I too have lost a daughter, Courtney at 8days old. I now have a daughter, Sydney 6 with DS and am so sorry for your loss. I read Zoeys blog today and my heart broke for you. Sydney and I will add you to our nightly prayers!

Anonymous said...

I stumbled apon your blog months ago. I followed my co-workers blog and while blog-hopping i found yours. I have no ties to DS yet your daughter put a smile on my face and warmed my heart. I've learned so much from you and sweet Carly that i will be forever greatful for. Be proud, your 8 year old daughter made me a better person. Thank you for sharing her with us.

Vanessa R. - CA

Ellen said...

Words are entirely inadequate for this....I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.

Anderson Family said...

Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your sweet family. Carly was lucky to you for a family - she will be missed by so many people. Praying that you will feel her close to you! We are truly sorry for your loss.

shan said...

Praying for your family, unfortunately we know too well the pain of loosing a child. May the Lord hold you, guide you, comfort you.

Robin said...

Sending love from the west coast. So sorry for your loss, though it is a loss to all of us who share this wonderful world of DS. May your hearts find peace soon.

Chris said...

I just came upon your blog. I'm sorry such heart breaking news brought me here. I just wanted to express how sorry I am for your loss and let you know that many are thinking and praying for you and your family.

Amy said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I think that I had met you and Carly at a CADSA event or a CHUM. Our family is thinking of yours.

Amy
http://emmajoseph.blogspot.com