"Grieving the loss of a child is a process, it begins the day your child passes and ends the day the parent joins them."

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Sunday afternoon.

Today we visited our sweet little Carly.

We visit her often, but today

we wanted to decorate her grave site for fall/Halloween.

We think it looks pretty good.

Carly would likely agree.

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Wish I could remember to take my real camera

and not just use my cell phone.

Either way,

her grave is decorated for the season

and that's all that matters.

We placed mums on either side of the headstone.

Pumpkins and a cute little scarecrow girl!

And even a bale of straw (fake!),

along with some Indian corn too.

Afterward, we stood and cried.

Wishing so badly that we were thinking

about Halloween costumes and school parties.

But that is not our reality.

This stupid cemetery is.

And with that, we have to do the best we can.

So decorate for our girl, we will do.

Not sure that I ever posted her grave after we

placed the scaled down versions of

her Little Tike Toys, which still

remain in our backyard.

All the mini versions you see in this picture,

are the exact duplicates to the toys that

Carly LOVED to play on each and every day.

Often times for hours on end.

There is even a little dog that sits in within

the toys in this picture.

It looks like her little cockapoo, Penny.

The only ting missing within these toys,

is her beloved swing set.

Oh she loved to swing, swing, swing!

I would love to find a mini/model type

swing set too, but haven't been able to find one.

Yes, this is how we spent our Sunday afternoon.

With our sweet little Carly.


Anonymous said...


My name is Sarah said...

I think Carly would like it too.

Cindy said...

I bet Carly is smiling and loving those mini toys!

Heather said...

Sending love and prayers on this Sunday.Hating you have to spent your day there.Wishing I could lift this from you.Instead,doing all that I can and that is sending strength.

*I'll keep my eyes peeled for a mini swing set.There has got to be one out there someplace.

Unknown said...

Like Carly's, Laynee's grave is adorned with mini Heehee's and Moo's and BawkBawks. I go there and I move them around, making sure they are standing up straight and they are all in a row. While in the store one day I found a painted canvas that says "The priness sleeps here." I had to have it, it's colors perfect for her room. It's there at her grave instead. Our beautiful princess has been sleeping far too long. I fiddle and I fuss but it's never enough. It can never, ever be enough. I want her back

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Stephanie said...

It's beautiful Joanie...

Laura said...

You both did a great job, I'm sure she is looking down from heaven smiling! You all remain in the thoughts and prayers.

JennyH said...

It looks great. Those little toys are very cute. What a neat idea.

kecia said...

it does look great! those mini toys are so cute and what a sweet memory of her! I cried reading this....

Kristen said...

I picture Carly smiling over this, right from where she is right now.

Michele Risner said...

It sucks that this is our reality but you have made a beautiful place to visit with her. I would give anything to have her back too

Anonymous said...

Just thought I was supposed to share this with you . . .


Tina said...

It's really beautifully done with so much love. I am sure Carly is looking down and saying the same thing. I am sure she has her very own swing set right where she is.

Sending you love and always praying that you find peace and strength to get through the days which I know must be filled with so much sadness. I hate that you have to go through this but Carly will not want you to be sad, she continues to live in everything around you and definitely in all our hearts.

Michelle said...

I also imagine Carly looking down and smiling at what you've done. Although I wish with all my heart she was there to play with those toys in her own backyard instead.