"Grieving the loss of a child is a process, it begins the day your child passes and ends the day the parent joins them."
BJKarrer

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Gifts!

Gift #3.

Another beauty of a gift that I received in the mail a few weeks ago. This is from another dear online friend, Debbie. It is so pretty! The picture doesn't do it justice at all. I'm just now realizing I should NOT have taken a picture of this necklace up against a red background! Hopefully, you will be able to tell,,,,,the necklace is copper colored. "Carly" is stamped on it. Attached to the chain is an angel charm. I LOVE it! Thank you Debbie.



I mentioned in a previous post, that Ashleigh loved these necklaces so much, (she wore the above necklace for an entire week) we ordered one for her. Hers is very much like my gift from Polly and Kristen. Ashleigh's larger pendant says, "forever sisters" and the smaller pendant has "Carly" stamped on it. She then added Carly's birthstone and a small heart charm. It's very nice and she hasn't taken it off, other than to shower, since it came in the mail!

Each of the necklaces that I have received are very special to me. I've had so many people comment on them. Of course everyone is very surprised when I tell them I'm receiving these gifts from people across the United States. People that I have never actually met in person. People who were brought into my life through my sweet little angel. To think, we've all connected here, online, because of one extra little chromosome. How powerful that extra little chromosome is. Amazing!

Again, thank you to all who have been showing our family so much support. I wish I could meet each and every one of you some day.

14 comments:

stephanie said...

It's just beautiful. I've been looking at your posts and all the beautiful gifts you have been receiving. Everyone of them have been so perfect. They are simple in design and with such thought and meaning in them. Just perfect and lovely... just like Carly.
This blog world is amazing...

Debbie @ Three Weddings said...

I'm glad you liked it. I just wish we could do more.

Rochelle said...

Beautiful, glad you are feeling the love and support of so many!

Anne and Whitney: Up, Down and All Around said...

what a beautiful necklace! isn't this connection wonderful, mike and i were just talking about it tonight, how lucky we are to have so many "friends" who can help us with simple questions pertaining to Ds to very tough times! we are all "there" for each other. still thinking about you tons!!!

Sasha said...

What a beautiful necklace. I am so glad you are feeling supported by gifts that people are sending you. Sending love and strength to you. Hugs.

Tina said...

Simply beautiful....

Michelle said...

beautiful necklace!

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Meredith Ramer said...

Joany,
I am so sorry for your loss. Sorry that we share this common grief and I will pray for you as you struggle through the anger and the grief. I wish I could tell you it would be easy, but it's not. Find Hope that Our God in Heaven is there holding your heart and catching your tears. Love in Christ!
Meredith

JennyH said...

It is very pretty. Debbie you're so thoughtful!

I love seeing all the gifts you received.

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Monica said...

What a beautiful and thoughtful way to remember your sweet angel.

Groves said...

You would probably be surprised at how your posts help others of us out here (who have never even met you) - people who are in grief also.

What you wrote about being asked if it was getting easier, and what you said about how it is NOT - my husband and I have talked about your words often and been comforted by your honesty. Reminded me of something I read this week in a book about surviving after grief:

"Society gives us little permission to grieve. The better we appear to be coping, the easier it is for people to be around us. We know the reports people want to hear are : "He is holding up well"; "She went back to work on Monday." A noted family therapist described society's attitude towards mourning as a general conspiracy that death has not occurred." (Seven Choices: Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World)

Of COURSE you are not fine - your beautiful daughter has died! And of course that does not mean that you are weak or wallowing or "giving in" to grief. It means that you really, really, really love her and that you miss her in a way too horrible for words. I just wish that everyone around you could be as honest about the loss as you are being. I'm glad you are, and I hope that you won't stop sharing your heart, whatever that is.

I am so sorry that your priceless daughter, Carly, is gone. So, so sorry. It is obvious that she was one in a million.

Thankful for you,

Cathy

The Queen said...

I stumbled across this from a friend that reads you. I go through the towns in your story when I visit Michigan family.

My Life partner was from your part of the country and when he passed away suddenly last year...IT'S A SHOCK.. and I understand what you are saying about different things in the process..

It doesn't get easier...no matter who you have to say goodbye to.. but a child.. Oh..a child... I feel so helpless.. there is nothing one can say that will help you...

then I read your story.. .. because I knew the area.. I rode with you as you told the story...

You are an amazing person... and your ability to write all this amazes me.

I was able to facebook.. King passed away today...

that's all they ever got..

You are amazing...

((((((HUGS))))))